Thursday, May 15, 2014

Lessons from Casper



     Well, I only have 46 more days in Casper.  I’m below the 50 mark!  Oh, and did I mention that I have accepted my DREAM job (I NEVER dreamed my first job would be in academia and ambulatory care… my two favorite worlds).  Oh, and did I also mention that my dream job is back in UTAH.  The clinic I’ll be working in is in Murray and the University I’ll be teaching for is in South Jordan so I really am going home.  This is a dream come true!!!
     So, with all of this anticipation of going back to my favorite place on earth to have the most amazing job I could possibly imagine; I’ve been in the process of packing up my apartment and reflecting on my time in Why-Oming.
     Since the day I matched with the residency program here, I’ve been asking why.  Why Casper?  Why Wyoming?  Why this program?  Why? Why?  Why?  And while I don’t know all of the reasons, there are some beautiful lessons I have learned the past several months.

Lesson #1: I love my family.  A lot.  I was always near family and took advantage of having them around.  Being further away, where I can’t see them all the time, has made me really appreciate them.  I look forward to every opportunity I’ve had to go visit Utah.  I’ve learned that the time I get to spend with my parents, my best friends (aka my siblings), and my amazing extended family (whom I’m really close with) really is a treasure. I’ve learned that I love nothing more than sitting around the kitchen table laughing with my family as we play “The Stupid Game”, or make “thumb grips” on the milk or talk about who would play our character in the sitcom about us (which, would be HILARIOUS BTW).  I’ve also learned that my family is always willing to talk, text, or Skype and I’m so thankful for their continued support, even when I’m not quite so close by.  I am incredibly thankful that I matched with this residency program as it is the closest to SLC, and crazy coincidence, the flight from Casper to Salt Lake is pretty darn cheap… allowing for me to go home and visit more often that I would have if I had matched with, say, the program in Florida.

Lesson #2: I’m tougher than I thought.  For the entire month before I moved to Wyoming, I prayed for a very mild winter because I DO NOT like the snow and cold and there was absolutely no way on earth I could survive a bad Wyoming winter.  I realized though, things weren’t going to work out how I wanted, when a blizzard the first week of October knocked out the power.  So far, we’ve had SEVEN months of snow and we’ve had an incredibly COLD winter.  (The coldest night I saw, with the windchilll was only -55°F).  Even though I still HATE driving in the snow and I am not a fan of cold, I learned I could handle things better than anticipated.  Turns out I’m capable of more than I expected.

Lesson #3: I can be friends with people who aren’t exactly like me.  I was spoiled in Utah.  Yes, very spoiled.  I hung out with lots of other people who were very similar to me.  You know: grad students, Mormons, singles, people over the age of 23.  When I moved out to Casper I was very lost for the first month or so.  It seemed like everyone in my singles ward was WAY younger than I, everyone was only in their first or second year of school, and we had almost NOTHING in common to talk about.  But, as time went on, I learned that there is still so much we share and CAN bond about.  Some of my closest friends in Casper are significantly younger than I, and they don’t care about school nearly as much as I do.  But, we share similar beliefs and values and we still can have a good time together.

Lesson #4: It’s okay not to plan EVERYTHING.  I’m a planner.  It’s what I do.  I’ve planned about every detail of my life for as long as I can remember.  And it’s served me well.  I’ve accomplished A LOT for my 25 years of life.  Before moving here, I had three google calendars, e-mail alerts, and phone alerts keeping me up to speed on everything I needed to get done to keep my life in perfect order.  I scheduled my entire day in 15-minute intervals, a week in advance (please try not to mock). It’s who I am.  But, once I moved here, I realized this wasn’t quite going to work any more.  The Casper culture is much more relaxed and people don’t have deadlines and calendars quite like I’m used to.  At first it drove me NUTS when my boss would say things like, “Just get this to me when you can” and I was receiving only a days notice before I needed to give my next lecture.     But, this way of thinking has grown on me and has helped me from being the same stressed-out nut job I once was.  In fact, a couple months ago when I was interviewing for a job, I had to do a couple of powerpoint presentations.  Well, technology isn’t perfect, and mid-way through both of my presentations; the slides stopped working.  I just rolled with the punches and fiddled with the cords and computer as I continued talking.  After my presentation, I was complimented on how calm I seemed, and how well I worked under pressure.  The big catch was I WAS calm and it hadn’t even dawned on me that I should be upset or flustered.  Now, part of this has to do with the prayers and fasting of my family and friends, and priesthood blessing I’d received from my dad, I’m sure.  But, part of it had to do with the new mindset I’ve achieved.  Learning this lesson alone has been invaluable and has made my move to Casper so worth it!

Lesson #5: I am never alone. This is my first time living by myself and my first few nights my apartment freaked me out.  I wasn’t used to the silence, and I hated walking in to a big empty apartment.  But, I was reminded pretty quickly that I wasn’t alone.  There have been so many people that have been answers to my prayers: friends calling to check on me after storms, home teachers that come to help at the drop of a hat, friends dropping by with burgers after a stressful day, the list goes on and on and on.  I have realized more than ever God is so aware of me, of my fears and dreams, and He will send me the things and people I need so I can accomplish what He needs me to.

     The past ten months have been some of the hardest, yet sweetest months of my life and I am so grateful for the opportunity I’ve had to move here and learn and grow.  I still don’t know all of the reasons Why-Oming was the place for me, but I do know that I needed to come here.  The Father’s blessing I received right before I moved here was right; my time in Casper will be a treasured time in my life, and a period I will always be grateful I experienced.